
Unhappiness with our bodies is pretty common among women.
I suspect it's the reason some women avoid coming for a massage, which is a shame because an attentive, professional massage could be just the gateway we need to open the door to healing these negative feelings.
Though our society has come a long way, it seems that men are still judged more on their accomplishments and wealth and women on their beauty and body. I hope this dichotomy will be gone in the not too distant future. Meanwhile, we as women need to present ourselves with all of the positive body messages that we can.
Recently I found a website that I really like. It's called "My Body Gallery... What Real Women Look Like." On this site women submit photos of themselves (heads/faces excluded). Then you plug in height, weight, pant size and shirt size. You also post a few words about your feelings like:
"I'll never be a size six."
"I don't remember a time when my body wasn't big."
"It all started before I was even a teenager."
"I've always been called too skinny by everyone I met."
After submitting your search parameters a group of pictures of people similar to your body type will come up. It's often amazing and instructional how lovely these bodies are even though the women with these body types don't like them. It's also somehow comforting to know that others struggle with this issue. The site is just beginning and they could use more photos. I plan on submitting one. I'm tiny to most people but with large, athletic legs, which I've always hated even though they are such talented legs (I was a dancer).
A final word:
Women need to bond together on this issue and celebrate our differences and our beauty as well as our accomplishments. Celebrate your life and your body; get that massage! And, If it makes you feel any better, massage therapists, work by feel, often with our eyes closed while doing a massage!
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